by Terry Bouma, LCPC I love to wander, driving on roads that are unusual and unfamiliar. I’ve done this for years. When my girls were young they’d ask if we were lost. Most of the time I could honestly say no, though I couldn’t have said…

WAS FREUD ON TO SOMETHING? Something that has always fascinated me about therapy is the transference that can take place throughout treatment. Transference in general refers to the way the client feels about their therapist, which can be positive, negative, or any kind of mix…

PURSUING YOUR PERFECT PROFESSION, PART I The most common impediment to successfully developing the career of your dreams is a person’s own inability to regulate that planning. That’s what I’ve discovered in my many years of helping people decide on a college major, or select…

In this post from my childhood memories around the fireplace, I am focused on the the internal resources you must have to create that spark that leads to a good fire. Preparation–especially in the midst of frustration–is our focus. When my father started a fire…

In the house I grew up in, the “hearth” was definitely front and center in our lives. My father and friends had success in building that house and one of the most cherished places was a gigantic living room fireplace faced with stone. I grew…

Most Americans have seen their share of reality TV. It could be a survivor battle in an exotic location, an abandonment journey where an individual finds a way back to civilization, a cooking championship, a competition for the best tattoo artist, or a weight loss…